Can A Mom Have A Miracle Morning? Part 4

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This is the final post of a 4 part series about my attempt to incorporate the Miracle Morning routine into my life.  You can go back and read part one here if you like - or you can just skip all that and read the conclusion here! The underlying basis of the program is from a book by Hal Elrod, “The Miracle Morning”.  There is a set morning routine to help you “become the person you need to be, to create everything you have ever wanted in your life.”  Sounds amazing, right?   

Day 30, done….. Hell yes!

Is waking up at 5am every morning worth it? Is it really changing my life?

First let's recap the past week:

My final week of my 30 day challenge had similar ups and downs of the other weeks with a few notable mornings.

Thanksgiving day I woke up, did my Miracle Morning routine and then walked 4 miles with a friend.  Yes, that is right.  I did my morning routine AND worked out on a holiday.  

I felt great about this because holidays/changes in routine are notorious times when my good habits fall to the wayside.

On Friday, the day after Thanksgiving, I woke up to my 5am alarm but was crazy tired and decided to give myself til 6am.  I got up, went downstairs and started my routine, however I was soooo tired that morning that I FELL ASLEEP during my meditation (sitting upright!).  

I decided to curl up on the couch for a little extra zzzz, waking up to the sounds of kiddos running around.  Needless to say this was not a miraculous morning.  I’m not exactly sure why I was so tired, but I have the feeling the holiday wine and extra doses of sugar may have something to do with it.

After all my public declaration last week to wake up at 5am on weekends as well as weekdays, I decided to cut myself some slack and go back to 6am wake up time.  I’ll play it by ear, but it seems to make a difference for me mentally if I get to “sleep in.”  But I still want to do my Miracle Morning routine everyday.  

On day 30, I had my three year old join me and sit in my lap during meditation.  He was sleepy and snuggly.  He is at this crazy adorable stage right now where I just want to eat him up (no really, I actually nibbled on his cheek the other day).  The distraction was welcomed and loved.  Meditative patience in action.   

What I learned in 30 Days

Meditation is for the Long Haul

Guided meditation apps seem to help my scattered mind have something to focus on.   I keep reading studies about all the health benefits of meditating.  I am hopeful, but haven’t felt any crazy impact so far.  I think this is more of a cumulative thing so I’ll keep doing it.

The glimmer of hope is that I’ve noticed I have more patience.  And being a parent requires crazy amounts of it.  The wee ones have some favorite sayings: “No”, “why”, “I help you”, and “I can do it myself.”  My patience is tested everyday.  I can never have enough patience, so it’s really helpful to find a tool that gives me more.  

Focus on ONE thing

What is the most important thing I need to get done today?I love answering this question every morning.  I have to think about what I need to do today to move me closer to my goals.   If I get nothing else done, I will still have made progress.

I write it down each day each day. Did you know the act of writing down a goal increases the odd that you'll accomplish it?  It takes two minutes and has huge impact.  I’d say 90% of the time I accomplish what I write.  Writing it down helps for a number of reasons:  

  1. You have to think about and prioritize your to do list. This helps to put things into perspective.   It is really easy for overwhelm to take over because there are so many things I could be doing.  But this forces me to pick ONE thing that is important. 
  2. Often times the #1 thing is not what I would naturally drift to working on. By stating it, I often tackle it first to get it out of the way and ensure it is completed.  Or as I drift, I pull myself back to the task I’ve declared as the most important.
  3. When you get it done, you feel a big sense of accomplishment.
  4. The cumulative effect is very strong.  Even when you don’t feel like you’re getting much done, you are still moving forward with your 1 big thing everyday.  

Mindset Is King

My dad used to say to me “if you want something done, give it to the busiest person.”  I’m pretty sure I just stared blankly at him, thinking "sure, whatever."

But that saying stuck with me.  And now, I get it.  Busy people are forced to be more organized and intentional with their time. If they want to get something done, they will.

I think back to myself a decade ago.  Mid twenties.  Carefree, no kids, no business.  I often wonder what I did with my time.  Why didn't I get more done?  I’ve come to realize that since I had a lot of free time, there was no sense of urgency.  No need to intentionally schedule and plan what I wanted to do.  And often times I didn't get much done at all.    

Now I have all these obligations and I’m more productive than I’ve ever been.  Rather than thinking that I can’t do things, I have to get creative and figure out how to do things.   

So when someone says “I’m not a morning person” or “ I could never do that”  What they really mean is, “I don’t want to be a morning person” and “ I don’t want to make the time to do that”  

I would not have pegged myself as a person who would willingly get up this early.  But here I am, doing it daily.

When I don’t want to do my workout because “I’m busy,” I just remind myself if the President can find time to workout, then so can I.  

Whether it is doing the Miracle Morning, running a marathon, starting a business, whatever YOU want to do, mindset is half the battle.  

Zealots Are Annoying 

I can get a little zealous sometimes when I find something that seems to work really well for me.  Yes, I can be THAT annoying person. I try to contain it, but sometimes it just sort of spills out. When I find something I like, I want to share it with everyone.  I mean really, I just don’t want anyone to miss out! (Hence these wonderful blog posts ;) 

This is what makes me a good coach for other business owners.  I want to share the things I’ve learned to run a better business.  

But it can be annoying for those who are around me the most (aka. my husband).

I was pretty happy with myself, getting up early, getting more work done, being so freakin happy and productive.  

He has dabbled in the idea of getting up early (hell, he’s the one who bought the book!).  I kept suggesting that he join me and then he would also have this amazing experience.

He says he wants to but the mornings come and go and he isn’t committed…. yet.  I want to say, "Come on you wimp, shit or get off the pot!  Do you want to live your best life or NOT?!!!” 

Luckily, I held back from these exact words.  But we joke about it.  

There might have been a recent moment when he was complaining about being tired and I scoffed.  Pointing out that not only do I get up during the night to nurse, but I also wake up at 5am everyday.  That didn’t go over so well. (cue, dismount from high horse)  

I was pretty annoying.  I think I need to rein it in before he stops talking to me.  

I would never have said that to a friend or really anyone else for that matter.  But sometimes I act and speak differently with family. As I like to say when I’m cranky, “we hurt the ones we love the most.”   

Probably not the best motto to live by.  So for my next month I'm going to set a goal (yes, I'll even write it down to ensure I accomplish it) to work on not being so annoying.  He knows what I'm doing.  I don't need to remind him.  

You Have To Do the Hard Stuff

It was only a few short weeks ago that I didn’t think I could get up at this godforsaken hour everyday!  

There comes a time when something clicks inside you and you decide you need to do “this”.  And then you’re off.  

But until that time comes no other person can talk you into it.  You need to want it for yourself.  

This is good to remember for everything in life. No one else can change us or our actions.  We have to want to change.  We have to do the hard work ourselves.

I need to focus on what I am doing, and not worry about what others aren’t doing.  Shut the hell up and lead by example.  

I’m still working on keeping my mouth shut….  

So it is worth it? Are the Miracle Mornings changing my life?

I think they are.  It’s more subtle than being struck by lightening, but the steps I’m taking are empowering me to feel more in control of my life and get shit done.  

Yes.

It is worth it.  And rain or shine, I’ll be up tomorrow at 5am to experience my next Miracle Morning.  

Cheers,